Happy New Year to all my loyal followers. Thank you so much to those who visited and inspired me over the past year with their awesome contributions by way of feedback and opportunities for improvement. Although we might we worlds apart, it shows you care and share my passion for empowering others to do and be the best they can be.
I hope 2016 is your year to shine and if I can help in any way, please reach out as my goal for 2016 is to empower as many people around the globe to brush fear aside, step outside their comfort zone, give them a confidence boost and achieve their goals for 2016!
How will I do this, you may ask? By challenging the status quo! All the way until each and every person out there reaches their goals.
My motto for this year is be open minded, treat others with a spirit of abundance and expect greatness.
Love to you all
Considering Australia is an aging population we need to divert our attention to what our children really need to learn as they grow into young adults and transition into the future generation of leaders. And that is:
- mutual respect – it’s the only way to build trust. If students, parents and teachers unified and equally demonstrated mutual respect, there is no doubt we would improve the quality of education and the success rate of our graduates. Good old fashioned manners and kind gestures such as good morning, please and thank you can and will go a long way to some basic human kindness, rather than just expecting things to happen. As role models, parents and teachers need to demonstrate that treating each other with dignity should be the number one priority and equally pulling up those who fail to demonstrate it daily.
- resourcefulness – how to be quick-witted and fight for what you believe in. We all make mistakes, even those in authority are not immune to mistakes or poor judgment calls. Children need to embrace challenging the status quo by being resourceful. And by this I mean, doing your research, getting the information and fighting for what you believe in, as opposed to just giving up too easily.
- risk -v- reward – taking responsibility for your action or inaction. Such as, consequences for poor conduct or poor performance. As a society we are becoming far too lenient when it comes to breaching serious legislative obligations, especially when they cost lives. Its time to wake up and take performance management seriously from day dot! This is what builds resilience not a slap on the wrist or “I’m sorry”. Our children need a masterclass in risk assessment and management in order to learn the importance of having controls in place to ensure a brighter future for everyone.
- the value of a dollar – unless our children learn how to manage their own money and start a savings pattern early on in life, they will continue to transition into adulthood without an appreciation for money. Being savvy about your money is the best lesson you can learn at a young age and one that will give you a competitive advantage as you enter adulthood.
My first impression having read the above quote by Oprah was….yeah right, easier said than done! I’d much rather revert to the blame game, feeling sorry for myself or asking the age old question…..why me? After all we are preconditioned to ‘negative thinking’ when you know what hits the fan. So why fight it? Why? Because if we live our lives with the expectation that we will never be hurt or let down, we are going to lead a life of stress and misery. And who wants that? Not me.
The more I thought about Oprah’s quote, the more it started to make sense. Problems (or wounds) created by others, can either make or break us and the experiences shape us into the people we become. Whether for better or worse, problems do create opportunities. Ultimately our attitudes are our driving force in how we choose to adapt and tackle these opportunities in order to help others.
Have a great week!
I have certainly missed my blogger friends over the past month or so but you will be pleased to know that I was distracted with a very good cause!
Ticking off my bucket list which included my long awaited project, self-publishing my very first book. I can safely say it is now out there for the world to read. Wow what a journey it has been and a great reminder to anyone out there hesitant to turn their dream into reality due to the fear of the unknown, unless you give it a crack, you will never know! So get out there and give it a go.
Equally if you would like a copy of my book, naturally titled: Challenge the Status Quo please go to: http://www.vividpublishing.com.au/challengethestatusquo/
Or if I can be of any assistance in helping you achieve your goal of self-publishing your book, please reach out! I would love to hear from anyone who has gone through the process of self-publishing a book and what their experience was like. Any tips you might give me going forward would also be highly regarded.
Here’s to stepping outside your comfort zone and reaping the success you deserve!
Have a great week.
Regardless of the obstacles before you, do not let a system stop you from achieving your goals.
A system is only as good as the next person who comes along with a strong belief and determination to challenge it. By challenging it, they change the course of not only their destiny but the destiny of those around them. As a society we do our best to adapt to the various systems implemented either by our governments, organisations or individuals. Some with good merit and others with odds that just don’t stack up or are out of our control, such as the forces of nature. However what I don’t believe is that a process cannot or should not be challenged, just because those in authority made it so. So why do most people settle for “sorry but we can’t help you” routine? Because most people:
- Would rather walk away from a confrontation.
- Give up too easily and settle for the status quo.
- Lack confidence to challenge a system – due to lack of knowledge/information or prior experience/exposure.
What we all need more of is confidence, the belief that we can change the outcome. Whether it’s to buy a new car or home, improve your health, get that dream job or change careers. We might have to tackle a system from several angles but as long as we are determined to see it through, we will succeed in challenging the status quo and achieving our goals.
As W. E. Hickson famously quoted: if at first you don’t success, try, try, try again.
Having witnessed more than my fair share of self-entitlement from senior executives this particular director took it to another level……in fact she took the cake and the crown for her over the top self-entitled behaviour.
This director took the time to give me a lecture (boarder line verbal abuse) on how her time was extremely important. She went on to say she was not interested in appointments unless they were mid-morning and how dare I offend her with a request for a breakfast meeting at 8:00am. She reminded me that she was director and everyone needed to dance around her. Her time was precious, it was all about her. Can you believe this? A Board member responsible for making the million dollar decisions which affects thousands of employees did not have a humble bone in her body. She was not prepared to budge or be flexible, requested a certain five star restaurant, the list went on and on.
I was appalled to say the least but the sad truth is that this is happening all around me and I find myself fighting for others who are unable to deal with such awful, rude leaders who lack compassion and continuously belittle and intimidate those around them. This particular director didn’t stop for a second to think about nor empathise with me, she was so consumed with self-entitlement she could not move past her demeaning and inconsiderate ways. Rather than saying no sorry my schedule cannot accommodate a breakfast meeting could you please offer me another time, she had to go down the path of self-righteousness.
This director was clearly all for a work life balance when it came to her needs yet failed to reciprocate and share that compassionate, empathetic view towards me. In fact she failed to acknowledge me period. I was someone who was disrupting her walk in the park. How dare I.
Don’t get me wrong I’m no stranger to self-entitled senior executive behaviour and I’ve had my quota of office politics spanning 18 year but what is seriously starting to affect me on a human level is this lack of empathy and complete self-entitlement with no regard for others. This behaviour needs to stop. We need to start calling out such behaviour as it’s disgusting and far from the role models we are looking to lead our future generation.
Like any other 15 year old teenager, my one has had her fair share of good and bad decision-making. Whether these were influenced by peer pressure or a lack of balanced judgment is irrelevant as we all have choices and the choices we make shape our destiny. We can teach our children right from wrong but ultimately wrapping them up in cotton wool isn’t going to teach them the survival skills required to take on the world. Whilst we are there to guide them, they need to learn how to make their own decisions whether good or bad and understand the consequences in order to grow into responsible adults.
What is important however is the need to be continuously present in our children’s lives in order to share the lessons regardless of a good or bad experience encountered. This requires regular conversations with our children to check-in and understand their current challenges/pressures on both a personal and professional level. It’s not about never-ending lectures on how they could have done things better but more about letting our children open up and share their reasoning for doing so in a trusting and non-judgmental environment.
In order to improve relationships with our children, I believe parents and teachers must take accountability for regularly checking in with teachers to see how our children are progressing and offering support where needed. Parents cannot rely on teachers alone to ensure their children are on the right track nor can teachers expect the parents to know whether their child is struggling or not until they read the school report. By taking ownership and accountability together parents and teachers are more likely to develop well-mannered and considerate role models in our society as we demonstrate kindness, consideration and willingness to support each other regardless of the circumstances.