Rather than bullying someone into your beliefs why not turn the corner and give them a compelling reason to get on board your belief! Too very different approaches, the first is forceful and unlikely to be successful, the second is engaging and gives you the freedom of choice, which by the way we are all entitled to. Today’s leaders need a wake up call and a reminder that no-one made them god and they need to stop abusing their power!
As I entered a cafe in East Perth on Saturday morning with my husband and young daughter I didn’t know where to look! All the young waitresses were dressed inappropriately for what I considered a family friendly environment. Short skirts barely covering their bottoms, not to mention their cleavages bursting out of their tops. Seriously I didn’t know where to look as I waited for my coffee. Why on earth are we allowing this??? These beautiful young girls should be informed and educated on what is appropriate and inappropriate work attire AND it starts with the parents followed by employers. Employers (and the hospitality industry) need to lift their game and realise they have a responsibility to these young girls (and its customers) to ensure they dress appropriately for their work environment.
You only get one crack at life….this is IT…your time is NOW
There is no rewind button once you’re gone. You cannot reflect on what could have, or should have been. Well you can but by then your chance at life, real life, the life you always wanted but were too scared to follow, would have passed you by.
Too often we are so caught up in the ‘daily grind’ and forget the ‘small stuff’, the inexpensive yet so precious things, like stopping to smile, to hug, to kiss to just enjoy each others company. Wait!….What!… I’m hanging the clothes, I’m doing the dishes, I’m running late…..oh it pains me as I’m guilty of all of these things. The amount of times my daughter has stood by my side waiting patiently to tell me all about her awesome day at school….only to hear me snap back with ‘what I’m too busy right now’ or even worse ‘go away’. I’m not proud of myself but I did recognise my shortcomings and am willing to make some serious changes in my life by making time for, and enjoying, the small stuff.
Having just heard the sad news of a very dear friend losing a loved one, I find myself deeply emotional and so in touch with the fact that our loved ones, our family need us NOW not tomorrow, not when we are ready, but NOW right NOW. So stop for a second and give your child, husband, brother or sister a big hug and be grateful to have them in your life.
As for your dreams…. Alfred Lord Tennyson put it nicely…“It’s better to have tried and failed than to live life wondering what would’ve happened if I had tried”
As I stared down at the laptop overwhelmed by my commitments, my 12 year old daughter whispers in my ear ‘don’t worry mum, you’ll be ok, don’t worry about work and I know you will do well with your studies’, it chocked me up, this kid new exactly what to say. The power of positive thinking truly is amazing. I often forget this beautiful gift of unconditional love that our children bring us and more importantly their ability to just keep it real for us. No amount of worry is going to change the outcome, it’s the level of commitment that’s going to get you closer to your dreams/desires. Actions speak louder than words! Take a deep breath and move forward on one bite at a time…..
As I laid in bed last nite in uncontrollable pain and my husband miles away on a business trip I’d resorted to the possibility of enduring a night of horrible pain or call for help. Concerned for my wellbeing I rang my mum for advice and her response was I’m coming to take you straight to the hospital Lil!
You see no matter what we are going through whether in our personal or professional lives, we need people to help us get through the ups and downs. Be a team player, it’s definitely worth your investment!
“Know where to find the information and how to use it – that’s the secret of success” Albert Einstein
- Believe in yourself – if you don’t believe in yourself no-one else will. Know what you want and continue to want it!
- Demand respect – do not allow yourself to be a pushover. Master the art of ‘no’. You have a voice, use it. If it means asking a stupid or difficult question, so be it.
- Your attitude/behaviour plays a crucial role in getting what you want out of your career/life. A positive attitude, mindset, patience and persistence will enhance your ability to successfully communicate with others. Know when to adjust your attitude to get the desired outcome (e.g. don’t give up, take it on the chin, accept there will be failures along the way and see these as a challenge to get it right next time round).
- Take risks. Challenge the status quo and pick your battles wisely by asking yourself what are the lessons learned here?
- Show passion and own it, don’t let anyone take it away from you. Accept that no two people are motivated by the same thing, at the same time, in the same moment. In other words, you cannot bring everyone on board your passion. Keep talking your talk and walk your talk because those who stop to listen are the ones who matter to YOU.