Resignation notice or bullying sentence?

We’ve all handed in a resignation at some stage of our careers so most of you out there are familiar with the notice period required under your employment contract.  The issue I have is where in the contract does it say that your boss is allowed to belittle and bully the hell out of you for making what is rightfully your decision to make?

Have you had a good or bad resignation experience?

How did you handle it?

Have you outgrown your job role?

Have you come to a point in your career where you want to reach your full potential?

This was the burning question on my mind which I would love to share with you all as I continue searching for my own career fulfilment.  Having lived through some serious adversity in the corporate world I was seeking some mentorship to help guide my next career decision.

Up until now my career choices have been largely driven by certainty/stability (financial security) but is there really such a thing? If so, where is the challenge in that?  How will I ever fulfil my need to grow and contribute to society if this part of me hasn’t been realised?

The more I thought about this, the more I realised that in order to feel successful, energised and empowered, I needed the freedom to make my own decisions.  If I want to make a difference in people’s lives on a level of great individual expansion to live their dreams, believe in themselves, to live their desires, then I too need to be living my desires.

A turning point today was a message from Anthony Robbins….“Our culture teaches us to believe that we have limitations – that we are the product of our environment”.  However, we have the power of choice and the decisions we make day to day is what shapes our destiny.

“If you are confronted with a problem, the longer you put it off, the greater it becomes, and the more fearful you become of your ability to solve it.  In not deciding, you fail to act, and in failing to act, you invite failure”.  Therefore learn to make decisions! – Claude Bristol

So my decision today, is not to let fear or failure stop me from living my dreams!

Are you at a cross-road with your career? Did you have to make a tough decision in order to follow your heart, your passion?

How to boost your confidence in the corporate arena

1. Dress for success

A simple and effective way to kick start your confidence is by looking and feeling fabulous.  Now this isn’t just about that killer outfit that screams ‘I mean business’! It’s about the whole package which includes: grooming (your hair, make-up, nails), your posture, body language and your communication style.  Believe me, it works and it is the most effective way to catapult your career in the right direction.  For example, you might have all the qualifications in the world but lack confidence to literally sell yourself.  I once worked in an organisation where several people were convinced I was a lawyer.  This was really a result of my presentation and communication style – which was really all about my confidence.  The ability to carry myself according to my audience.

2. Take risks

You’ve heard the saying ‘the squeaky wheel gets the most attention’.  Do not let fear, failure or judgment control you!  You need to step outside your comfort zone and throw your ideas/opinions on the table.  Trust me the only way you are going to achieve this is through experience.  You can’t build a reputation by talking about it – you have to do the work.  For example, you throw what you believe is a great idea on the table and you are being disrespected.  Speak up and set the boundaries.  You’d be amazed at the response.  The expectation most of the time is compliance.  So unless you say something, guess what? The vicious circle will continue.  Don’t settle for being a pushover, have the courage to say ‘no’ and don’t let anyone force their beliefs onto you.  Stick to your guns and persist with your idea, that’s what confidence is all about!

Building successful relationships

I believe starts with giving respect and trust.  Without these two prerequisites you’re unlikely to build successful professional or social relationships.

It’s no rocket science, you need to invest the time and energy in order to really get to know someone.  Whether you’re searching for a new client, new partner or trying to build a successful team, start by giving respect and trust.  It’s well worth your investment!

Reading someone’s biography or CV will merely tell you their life’s journey thus far.  Since first impressions are everything – this approach might be totally misinterpreted as you cannot determine one’s true values, passion and emotions without truly engaging and getting to know them.  It is only through conversations that you will truly get to know someone and understand what makes them tick.

As Anthony Robbins puts it:  ‘It’s not about me, it’s about we’.


Got what it takes but no-one’s listening?

Is there anything more frustrating than knowing you’ve got what it takes – the experience, knowledge, education, passion, drive, ambition yet you fail to leverage your ideas and/or hopes for that well deserved promotion?

What do you do?  Do you give up? Do you stick around and wait for the green light? Do you put your career/destiny in someone else’s hands?  I think NOT!

As long as you believe it is possible, then you must never, ever give up.  “A rejection is nothing more than a necessary step in the pursuit of success.” –  Bo Bennett