Speaking from experience, our attitude is the driving force in everything we do yet we dedicate little to no effort to enhance it. Now I’m all for the power of positive thinking but when things turn pear shaped and life’s just not cutting us any slack, merely thinking positive thoughts is not going to bring about the confidence needed to reach our goals. So what the heck do you do? Challenge the status quo! If you find yourself continuously backing out of a goal due to lack of confidence, challenge the status quo. Challenge your own beliefs in order to dispel and prove (to yourself if no-one else) that it is possible. Remember you need to experience it in order to believe it. Developing a confident attitude is all about experimenting. Give yourself a chance, have a crack….step outside your comfort zone by challenging the status quo in your professional or personal environment and watch your confidence grow.
To boosting your confidence and getting what you want out of life!
Last week saw me fighting for yet another crack at a management role and the best excuse my boss could give me was that I didn’t know what I wanted! Really I said? Rather than just give me a down the line ‘no’ …not gonna happen, I copped a barrage of insults which no doubt made her feel better about herself. The justifications went on and on about where she saw my career (which was in her favour and way off my aspirations which I made very clear early on in the game). This was coming from someone who apparently was passionate about developing people……someone who inspired me with their speech of empowerment, trust and commitment to developing people.
I thought to myself here is someone in a leadership position with the ability to make a difference to my career yet her sole focus was on what’s best for her ONLY. No negotiation….zero compromise. Truly gut wrenching to be honest. And we wonder why we have such a demotivated workforce.
Anyway, the moral of my story being….that which doesn’t kill us…only makes us stronger so don’t sit back and listen for others to tell you what you want. Figure it out for yourself and stick to your guns. If you cannot get someone to give you what you want……make it clear what you don’t want. It will save you a lot of heartache down the track as you will quickly learn from their response whether you are being played or there is a glimmer of hope.
A couple of weeks ago I was quite distressed at the prospect of not being able to find a new home for my little family. I was overwhelmed by yet another challenge life decided to throw my way. On the one hand I was excited at the prospect of moving and on the other, the thought of having to pack and unpack our belongings as well as the financial stress of moving, sent my stress levels into overdrive.
So rather than worrying myself to death, I decided to throw a curve ball at the universe and asked for a nice home in a safe neighbourhood. A week later the universe delivered just that! And my gorgeous family pitched in financially. Don’t get me wrong, I had to do the work but in essence our new home came to me in the most unexpected way once I made it clear to the universe what I wanted.
The moral of my story being that sometimes I think we just need to ask and let the universe find the how. Rather than putting limitations on an outcome due to our own beliefs, why not just ask and see if you receive.
Have a great week everyone!
To boosting your confidence and getting what you want out of life.