Last week saw me fighting for yet another crack at a management role and the best excuse my boss could give me was that I didn’t know what I wanted! Really I said? Rather than just give me a down the line ‘no’ …not gonna happen, I copped a barrage of insults which no doubt made her feel better about herself. The justifications went on and on about where she saw my career (which was in her favour and way off my aspirations which I made very clear early on in the game). This was coming from someone who apparently was passionate about developing people……someone who inspired me with their speech of empowerment, trust and commitment to developing people.
I thought to myself here is someone in a leadership position with the ability to make a difference to my career yet her sole focus was on what’s best for her ONLY. No negotiation….zero compromise. Truly gut wrenching to be honest. And we wonder why we have such a demotivated workforce.
Anyway, the moral of my story being….that which doesn’t kill us…only makes us stronger so don’t sit back and listen for others to tell you what you want. Figure it out for yourself and stick to your guns. If you cannot get someone to give you what you want……make it clear what you don’t want. It will save you a lot of heartache down the track as you will quickly learn from their response whether you are being played or there is a glimmer of hope.