“If you don’t like something, change it. If you can’t change it, change your attitude”. – Dr Maya Angelou

The second component of the AAB model focuses on your:


You need to have the right attitude. A good example is a ‘can do’ attitude.

There is nothing worse than a poor attitude. A poor attitude has the potential to derail even the strongest of characters. If you find yourself thinking negatively all the time, you need to change your mind-set in order to gain back some self-control. I’m a strong advocate of positive thinking using the ‘4A strategy’  to help you focus on the things you do want rather than those you don’t. The 4A Strategy encourages you to:

Accept: the things you can’t change. Acceptance involves stopping, looking and listening to what is going on around you and answering to yourself ‘is being emotional going to help me in this situation?’

Adapt: to the situation. Listen to what the person is saying as you may have unrealistic expectations/deadlines.

Alter: so as to change the situation. Find an alternative route to your goals.

Avoid: topics that are going to trigger an emotional imbalance for you.

Boosting your confidence through the AAB (Appearance-Attitude-Behaviour) model:

As promised last week, this blog is dedicated to expanding more on my AAB model which starts with:

Appearance – looking and feeling good.

Want to improve your image?

Want to improve your presence and stand out from your competitors?

If you present yourself poorly with no effort, others will judge your work efforts accordingly. Since you only get one crack at making good first impression, you need to get your appearance right! For example, if you are wanting to attract the right partner, the way you express yourself, the inner and outer essence of what is unique about you is the key part of making or breaking a first impression. Often people know who they are but their style fails to convey it, or even worse sends the wrong message. By perfecting and projecting your individual style, you will successfully manage and control other people’s perception of you.

Your personal presentation is not just about your fashion sense. It’s the complete package. Head to toe style transformation which includes grooming such as your skin, nails, hair and makeup. A little effort such as ensuring your clothes are ironed and stain free, along with smelling good, can and will go a long way if you want to stand out from the crowd and increase your confidence / self-esteem.

Dressing for success is all about knowing your audience/customers as first impressions are everything. Some people have fashion sense, some don’t’. Certain colours bring different dynamics. It matters to the audience, so cannot be ignored.

Whilst being fashionable attaches a certain level of negativity or unattainability, for me, being fashionable is all about practicality, versatility, having fun and expressing yourself in a way that empowers and portrays your image, boosts your self-esteem and ensures presentation for success.

Stay tuned as I share the remaining two elements of my AAB model in order to help boost your confidence and get you the success you deserve!

Why are some people more confident than others?

Is it their upbringing? Or perhaps ‘freedom of expression’ at an early age? Or was it ingrained in their DNA?

This topic is very personal to me, and one which I am very passionate about having been on the other side of the ‘confidence trap’ until well into my teens.  Suffering from low self-esteem, through my own experiences, reminds me just how debilitating life can be without confidence. You withdraw from the real world, you start to doubt anything and everything about yourself.  You start to feel inferior.  It’s a horrible trap to fall into BUT it doesn’t have to be this way!  Speaking from my own experience, you do not have to be born with confidence to acquire it! You just have to work really, really hard at attaining it.  I can comfortably say for me, confidence was a skill developed over time and never stops being developed.  It requires some serious guts and determination as you will fall but fear not as your persistence will pay off and help you rise in more ways than you can imagine.

Over the years I have learned some great tricks of the trade and mastered some pretty powerful tools which I want to share with YOU to ensure you get the confidence you need today, so that you can do or be the person you want to be without falling into the ‘confidence trap’.

Those tools start with exploring your appearance, attitude and behaviour (AAB).  Exploring and aligning your AAB will boost your confidence, allow you to step outside your comfort zone and allow you to tackle any challenge life throws your way!

Stay tuned over the coming weeks as I expand more on what I really mean by ‘exploring and aligning your appearance, attitude and behaviour (AAB)’.

Have a great week!