“Turn your wounds into wisdom” – Oprah

My first impression having read the above quote by Oprah was….yeah right, easier said than done! I’d much rather revert to the blame game, feeling sorry for myself or asking the age old question…..why me? After all we are preconditioned to ‘negative thinking’ when you know what hits the fan.  So why fight it?  Why?  Because if we live our lives with the expectation that we will never be hurt or let down, we are going to lead a life of stress and misery. And who wants that? Not me.

The more I thought about Oprah’s quote, the more it started to make sense.  Problems (or wounds) created by others, can either make or break us and the experiences shape us into the people we become. Whether for better or worse, problems do create opportunities. Ultimately our attitudes are our driving force in how we choose to adapt and tackle these opportunities in order to help others.

Have a great week!

Lilianna

Capitalising on your unique value proposition ‘you’

Rather than spending the rest of your days seeking out what other people think about you, you need to shift your focus to embracing your identity in this world. Yes you are unique as there is only one of ‘you’ and what you bring to this world matters a great deal.  Having the freedom to be you is a choice well within your power. Being true to you is very liberating, empowering and should not be sacrificed at the expense of others. It’s what integrity is all about. The amount of times I’ve heard the echo of people doubting themselves, feeling awkward, shy or different whether it’s their looks, dreams, ambitions or choices, is astounding. Having the freedom to be oneself in this lifetime is not only beneficial to you but positively impacts others around you as you live, behave and make choices that are in alignment with ‘you’.

Start shining with confidence and live by the unique values that make you…you.

Why criticism is good for the soul

Because it makes us challenge our ideas and offers us an opportunity to improve our work. It’s not always about seeking reinforcement that you are on the right track. You want to be challenged. How else are you going to be able to persuade the other party that your idea is going to work?

Don’t take criticism as a negative, but rather as a positive step towards your goals. Even if you don’t take a single piece of advice on board, at least it made you challenge your ideas and that is a good thing!

There is no time for second guessing

Regardless of the obstacles in front of you right now…. this very minute, all you need is HOPE.

Hope will ignite your passion in your darkest hour. It will keep you focused and determined. It will make you challenge the status quo in order to break those obstacles to smithereens!

Don’t waste your time second guessing a dream just because others may have put limitations on them. Scrap those people, find another avenue and go for it, your time is NOW!

Happy Mother’s Day to all the gorgeous mums around the world.

Have a great week.

Lilianna

Excuses are for losers

Ninety-nine percent of the failures comes from people who have the habit of making excuses. – George W. Carve

Ok harsh, but certainly fair. I can absolutely accept a person failing as a result of trying their hardest and exhausting all possible avenues BUT what drives me mad is when people accept failure…..defeat before even giving it a go. How crazy is that?

If you find yourself making a lot of excuses, rather than just getting on with your goals, be brutally honest with yourself by asking whether you are merely avoiding the “too hard” basket of tasks needing to be done? Which resulted in excuses after excuses. If this is the case, you are probably allowing self-doubt to creep in and take over your mindset. Or, you might need a good kick up the backside to get you back on track!

Take control of your confidence and kick self-doubt in the guts with some positive self-talk in order to stay on track. Reassurance is critical, along with surrounding yourself with positive and encouraging people such as a mentor. The main takeaway is that you need to do the WORK as excuses are for losers.