Happy New Year to all my loyal followers. Thank you so much to those who visited and inspired me over the past year with their awesome contributions by way of feedback and opportunities for improvement. Although we might we worlds apart, it shows you care and share my passion for empowering others to do and be the best they can be.
I hope 2016 is your year to shine and if I can help in any way, please reach out as my goal for 2016 is to empower as many people around the globe to brush fear aside, step outside their comfort zone, give them a confidence boost and achieve their goals for 2016!
How will I do this, you may ask? By challenging the status quo! All the way until each and every person out there reaches their goals.
My motto for this year is be open minded, treat others with a spirit of abundance and expect greatness.
Love to you all
Considering Australia is an aging population we need to divert our attention to what our children really need to learn as they grow into young adults and transition into the future generation of leaders. And that is:
- mutual respect – it’s the only way to build trust. If students, parents and teachers unified and equally demonstrated mutual respect, there is no doubt we would improve the quality of education and the success rate of our graduates. Good old fashioned manners and kind gestures such as good morning, please and thank you can and will go a long way to some basic human kindness, rather than just expecting things to happen. As role models, parents and teachers need to demonstrate that treating each other with dignity should be the number one priority and equally pulling up those who fail to demonstrate it daily.
- resourcefulness – how to be quick-witted and fight for what you believe in. We all make mistakes, even those in authority are not immune to mistakes or poor judgment calls. Children need to embrace challenging the status quo by being resourceful. And by this I mean, doing your research, getting the information and fighting for what you believe in, as opposed to just giving up too easily.
- risk -v- reward – taking responsibility for your action or inaction. Such as, consequences for poor conduct or poor performance. As a society we are becoming far too lenient when it comes to breaching serious legislative obligations, especially when they cost lives. Its time to wake up and take performance management seriously from day dot! This is what builds resilience not a slap on the wrist or “I’m sorry”. Our children need a masterclass in risk assessment and management in order to learn the importance of having controls in place to ensure a brighter future for everyone.
- the value of a dollar – unless our children learn how to manage their own money and start a savings pattern early on in life, they will continue to transition into adulthood without an appreciation for money. Being savvy about your money is the best lesson you can learn at a young age and one that will give you a competitive advantage as you enter adulthood.
How does one know when enough is enough and its time to move onto another dream, another idea? Based on my experiences in goal attainment thus far, I would say if the burning desire far outweighs any inkling to quit, you have to keep going. Dig deep and insulate yourself from all the negative opinions by believing in yourself. Fire up your grit and persistence, go for gold!
Another very important lesson I’ve learned along the way is to be patient and know when to strike.
“Patience is power. Patience is not an absence of action; rather it is “timing” it waits on the right time to act, for the right principles and in the right way.” ― Fulton J. Sheen
The only way I knew how to deal with this dreaded process of ‘letting go’ was to write myself a “Dear Life” letter. This is for all of you out there who today (yes tomorrow is another day) are facing the same challenge as me…..STAYING POSITIVE
Thank you for the journey so far. I’ve learned a hell of a lot in my 40 years and can safely say that people will undoubtedly let you down and equally surprise you too!
Whilst I’m grateful for the diversity of people, I do wish we invested more time treating each other with respect and dignity. Ok I get it we don’t live in a perfect world….I’ve certainly had my fair share of ups and downs and I’m sure I’ve pissed a few people off along my journey.
Now to everyone out there that says…don’t let it get to you, stay positive….do me a great big favour and let me have my moment. I want to be angry, I want the world to know I’m friggin pissed off BUT I also want the world to know that I take full responsibility for where my life has taken me so far.
Yes I have failed but I have equally achieved. I’ve lost money, I’ve gained money. I’ve been let down, hell I’ve let people down too. I will not let anger get in the way of my dreams. I will not give up on my dreams and I will not make excuses for not living my dream.
I will continue to BELIEVE that anything is possible. More importantly, that I can & will make it happen! And to all the negative people out there, please stay out of my way!
Here are some useful tips to ensure you shine for the big judgment day:
- Invest the time in your performance review. You need to be well prepared. Take the time to reflect on the highs and the lows as they are equally important for your development going forward.
- Stay calm, don’t allow your boss to throw you off line….remain professional by showing great poise and integrity.
- Speak with confidence and conviction about any aspect you wrote down in your review.
- Ensure there is enough two-way dialogue….remember it’s not just about you getting feedback but also you asking questions. Be sure to seek examples from your boss on where they thought you were a strong performer and visa-versa. This ensures transparency and avoids ambiguity.
- Don’t be afraid to challenge an opinion and/or judgment, especially if you have ample material to back yourself up.
- Don’t forget to seek independent feedback from both internal and external stakeholders as this will back up all the positive work you have done throughout the year as well as corroborate your strengths.
- Make sure you are aware of your weaknesses so that you are well prepared to counteract these against your strengths.
Arming yourself with the right information is a great way to boost your confidence and ensure you get treated fairly.
For example, by focusing on facts such as quoting a section of an Act (a statistic, credible report and/or result) is going to get you a lot more attention than focusing on a truth about a matter. Whilst there is absolutely nothing wrong with a truth, the downfall is that they are raw and emotional, which leave you vulnerable to others perception of your truth. By sticking to cold hard facts, you are less likely to draw too much emotion and allow you to focus on the real issue at hand.
To give a real life example, employee x got fired for pushing his luck with the boss (truth) or employee x got fired for breaching section x of the Fair Work Act (fact).
Now I’m not suggesting be a robot, but once armed with information, know when to pick your moments and when to use a fact over a truth and allow your confidence to shine!