Hello to all you beautiful people out there! For those who might be wondering what on earth happened to me, well after a miserable reception by the job market, not to mention the negativity from a number of recruitment agencies, I decided to focus on completing my MBA degree which is now done and dusted! I’d be lying if said there were no tears, screams or panic attacks but I’m back on track and ready to share my story of rising above adversity and being grateful to those who push us over the edge!
If someone said to me a year ago, Lil you will quit your job and become a full-time student, I would have told them, dream on! No chance. My financial commitments meant quitting my job was out of the question. I’m sure most of you can relate to this age old problem.
In late February this year that all changed with a single decision to take control of my destiny rather than allow someone else to do it for me. I was well aware of the risks BUT there was no turning back as I faced my fears of losing the house, car all the things I had worked so hard for.
Whilst it wasn’t the easiest decision I ever made, it was the best decision by a long shot. Today, I am grateful to my former boss for the conversation that took place back in February because it changed my life forever. It truly opened my eyes to the fact that I had committed my future to an intimidating and controlling workplace which was sucking my will to live and for what? A flippin pay cheque.
I keep asking myself, why do we do this to ourselves? Why do we allow those in authority to bully and disrespect us? Why? Because of our preconditioned belief not to challenge or question authority and our culture teaches us to believe that we have limitations. Well to hell with that! I’m here to tell you that you do have a choice. The one thing you can control is YOU. Others will try to control you but ultimately you have a choice. As Anthony Robbins puts it…’decision is the ultimate power’.
To anyone out there reading my story, you must believe in yourself, don’t let others define you. I know this can be really hard and I was challenged on a number of occasions during my job search. People do their best to try and break your spirit but you must look beyond that and find the confidence to just stand your ground, know what you want and continue to want it.
During my job search I had the embarrassment of recruitment agencies telling me:
- Your salary expectations are unrealistic – Why would I want to sell myself short. I had a figure in mind and believed it was attainable. End of story, I wasn’t giving up!
- You’ll never get a job outside your current skills – What happened to giving people a go?
- We will require you to do a mock interview with us – WTF?? Someone with 18 years’ experience supporting Boards and Executives needs a mock interview? Are you kidding me?
I lost count of the number of rejections which followed. I redesigned my Resume so many times I cannot even remember only to eventually revert to its original format. I attended a number of interviews with top tier firms whose CEO’s failed to align with my values of respect and fairness. The ultimate blow was from a Director whose interview question included:
- Have you heard of FIFO? I said sure the mining industry use if for fly-in-fly-out. He said no here we use this acronym as ‘fit in or f’off’. I thought what hope in hell do I have if this was the level of professionalism coming from the top.
Whilst the road has been more than bumpy, through sheer persistence and determination I followed my heart at continued to believe that the right job would come along and that’s exactly what happened. Two weeks after completing my MBA degree I received a phone call from a woman who inspired me with one of her speeches during an MBA class. Little did I know that four months later she would offer me an opportunity of a lifetime!
Stay true to you, expect the unexpected, dare to dream and live life to the fullest. Miracles happen every day, all around us so don’t ever let anyone control or put limitations on your destiny.
“Life is all about choices. Every day you choose your attitude. Your attitude is the most important thing you own.” – Unknown