If you live your life within the boundaries circumscribed by others, you’ll never know the full scope of your potential – nor will anyone else. – Dr Lois Frankel
“You gain courage and confidence from doing the things you think you cannot do” – Eleanor Roosevelt
Regardless of the obstacles before you, do not let a system stop you from achieving your goals.
A system is only as good as the next person who comes along with a strong belief and determination to challenge it. By challenging it, they change the course of not only their destiny but the destiny of those around them. As a society we do our best to adapt to the various systems implemented either by our governments, organisations or individuals. Some with good merit and others with odds that just don’t stack up or are out of our control, such as the forces of nature. However what I don’t believe is that a process cannot or should not be challenged, just because those in authority made it so. So why do most people settle for “sorry but we can’t help you” routine? Because most people:
- Would rather walk away from a confrontation.
- Give up too easily and settle for the status quo.
- Lack confidence to challenge a system – due to lack of knowledge/information or prior experience/exposure.
What we all need more of is confidence, the belief that we can change the outcome. Whether it’s to buy a new car or home, improve your health, get that dream job or change careers. We might have to tackle a system from several angles but as long as we are determined to see it through, we will succeed in challenging the status quo and achieving our goals.
As W. E. Hickson famously quoted: if at first you don’t success, try, try, try again.
Rather than spending the rest of your days seeking out what other people think about you, you need to shift your focus to embracing your identity in this world. Yes you are unique as there is only one of ‘you’ and what you bring to this world matters a great deal. Having the freedom to be you is a choice well within your power. Being true to you is very liberating, empowering and should not be sacrificed at the expense of others. It’s what integrity is all about. The amount of times I’ve heard the echo of people doubting themselves, feeling awkward, shy or different whether it’s their looks, dreams, ambitions or choices, is astounding. Having the freedom to be oneself in this lifetime is not only beneficial to you but positively impacts others around you as you live, behave and make choices that are in alignment with ‘you’.
Start shining with confidence and live by the unique values that make you…you.
Ninety-nine percent of the failures comes from people who have the habit of making excuses. – George W. Carve
Ok harsh, but certainly fair. I can absolutely accept a person failing as a result of trying their hardest and exhausting all possible avenues BUT what drives me mad is when people accept failure…..defeat before even giving it a go. How crazy is that?
If you find yourself making a lot of excuses, rather than just getting on with your goals, be brutally honest with yourself by asking whether you are merely avoiding the “too hard” basket of tasks needing to be done? Which resulted in excuses after excuses. If this is the case, you are probably allowing self-doubt to creep in and take over your mindset. Or, you might need a good kick up the backside to get you back on track!
Take control of your confidence and kick self-doubt in the guts with some positive self-talk in order to stay on track. Reassurance is critical, along with surrounding yourself with positive and encouraging people such as a mentor. The main takeaway is that you need to do the WORK as excuses are for losers.
Whatever has happened to you in your past has no power over this present moment, because life is now. – Oprah
Whether it’s your personal brand or business, leaders that invest time and money in training their staff to provide superior customer service (value proposition), will place a heavy focus on ensuring their staff deliver such services with absolute confidence. The first step in this process, is to nail the first impression! Do this well (consistently) and the customer will keep coming back. Why, because confident staff, are empowered, energised and enthusiastic to do their very best, more importantly they will make it happen!