“Turn your wounds into wisdom” – Oprah

My first impression having read the above quote by Oprah was….yeah right, easier said than done! I’d much rather revert to the blame game, feeling sorry for myself or asking the age old question…..why me? After all we are preconditioned to ‘negative thinking’ when you know what hits the fan.  So why fight it?  Why?  Because if we live our lives with the expectation that we will never be hurt or let down, we are going to lead a life of stress and misery. And who wants that? Not me.

The more I thought about Oprah’s quote, the more it started to make sense.  Problems (or wounds) created by others, can either make or break us and the experiences shape us into the people we become. Whether for better or worse, problems do create opportunities. Ultimately our attitudes are our driving force in how we choose to adapt and tackle these opportunities in order to help others.

Have a great week!

Lilianna

There is no time for second guessing

Regardless of the obstacles in front of you right now…. this very minute, all you need is HOPE.

Hope will ignite your passion in your darkest hour. It will keep you focused and determined. It will make you challenge the status quo in order to break those obstacles to smithereens!

Don’t waste your time second guessing a dream just because others may have put limitations on them. Scrap those people, find another avenue and go for it, your time is NOW!

Happy Mother’s Day to all the gorgeous mums around the world.

Have a great week.

Lilianna

Farewell to 2014….a great time to reflect on lessons learned throughout the year

As 2014 comes to an end I took the time to reflect and take note of the lessons that stood out for me this year:

  1. The importance of family. With the passing of my father-in-law, it reminded me that life really is too short and to take each day you spend with your family as a blessing. To make time for family, as we cannot get it back.
  2. Giving unconditionally. To give from the heart without any strings attached.
  3. To be more grateful for the things I do have.
  4. To smile. There is so much anger in the world…yet we forget just how much you can achieve with a simple smile. To me it’s the biggest offer of kindness you can give.
  5. Don’t sweat the small stuff otherwise life will pass me by. Choose what’s important to me.

Wishing you all a safe and Happy 2015!

To boosting your confidence and breaking barriers by challenging the status quo and getting what you want out of life.

Lilianna

Why are some people more confident than others?

Is it their upbringing? Or perhaps ‘freedom of expression’ at an early age? Or was it ingrained in their DNA?

This topic is very personal to me, and one which I am very passionate about having been on the other side of the ‘confidence trap’ until well into my teens.  Suffering from low self-esteem, through my own experiences, reminds me just how debilitating life can be without confidence. You withdraw from the real world, you start to doubt anything and everything about yourself.  You start to feel inferior.  It’s a horrible trap to fall into BUT it doesn’t have to be this way!  Speaking from my own experience, you do not have to be born with confidence to acquire it! You just have to work really, really hard at attaining it.  I can comfortably say for me, confidence was a skill developed over time and never stops being developed.  It requires some serious guts and determination as you will fall but fear not as your persistence will pay off and help you rise in more ways than you can imagine.

Over the years I have learned some great tricks of the trade and mastered some pretty powerful tools which I want to share with YOU to ensure you get the confidence you need today, so that you can do or be the person you want to be without falling into the ‘confidence trap’.

Those tools start with exploring your appearance, attitude and behaviour (AAB).  Exploring and aligning your AAB will boost your confidence, allow you to step outside your comfort zone and allow you to tackle any challenge life throws your way!

Stay tuned over the coming weeks as I expand more on what I really mean by ‘exploring and aligning your appearance, attitude and behaviour (AAB)’.

Have a great week!

I can, I will

Turning a dream into reality.  How does one get there?  You have a passion for doing something great…yet you just cannot visualise the end product.  So you park your dream and embrace the safety net of someone else’s dream……… This process is sooooo friggin frustrating!   You motivate yourself and then some demotivates you…but ultimately YOU are in control of your destiny, right?  At least I think so.  In order to stop my negative thinking I turned to my motivational guru Tony Robbins and the following quote jumped right at me…  “if you haven’t reached your dream…you’re just not that hungry for it”!   I’d be lying if I said this quote didn’t make me angry, but he was right.

So today I take responsibility for not being hungry enough.  Today I take charge in order to reinvigorate my hunger, my drive to do and be the best I can be.  Because I can and I will!

The question is are you hungry enough?

To keepinitreal

 

 

Do you know what you want?

Last week saw me fighting for yet another crack at a management role and the best excuse my boss could give me was that I didn’t know what I wanted!  Really I said?  Rather than just give me a down the line ‘no’ …not gonna happen, I copped a barrage of insults which no doubt made her feel better about herself.  The justifications went on and on about where she saw my career (which was in her favour and way off my aspirations which I made very clear early on in the game).  This was coming from someone who apparently was passionate about developing people……someone who inspired me with their speech of empowerment, trust and commitment to developing people.

I thought to myself here is someone in a leadership position with the ability to make a difference to my career yet her sole focus was on what’s best for her ONLY.  No negotiation….zero compromise.  Truly gut wrenching to be honest.  And we wonder why we have such a demotivated workforce.

Anyway, the moral of my story being….that which doesn’t kill us…only makes us stronger so don’t sit back and listen for others to tell you what you want.  Figure it out for yourself and stick to your guns.  If you cannot get someone to give you what you want……make it clear what you don’t want.  It will save you a lot of heartache down the track as you will quickly learn from their response whether you are being played or there is a glimmer of hope.

 

 

 

 

 

Hope and gratitude

Hope and gratitude

A great way to boost your confidence is to channel your attitude towards a happy and peaceful place allowing you to refocus and stay positive.
This morning I stumbled across this picture my daughter took as we walked along the coastline of City Beach, WA. So peaceful and breathtaking. Truly something to be grateful for.
Today I am hopeful a great new home will manifest itself in the nick of time as I have to move homes.