My first impression having read the above quote by Oprah was….yeah right, easier said than done! I’d much rather revert to the blame game, feeling sorry for myself or asking the age old question…..why me? After all we are preconditioned to ‘negative thinking’ when you know what hits the fan. So why fight it? Why? Because if we live our lives with the expectation that we will never be hurt or let down, we are going to lead a life of stress and misery. And who wants that? Not me.
The more I thought about Oprah’s quote, the more it started to make sense. Problems (or wounds) created by others, can either make or break us and the experiences shape us into the people we become. Whether for better or worse, problems do create opportunities. Ultimately our attitudes are our driving force in how we choose to adapt and tackle these opportunities in order to help others.
Have a great week!
As 2014 comes to an end I took the time to reflect and take note of the lessons that stood out for me this year:
- The importance of family. With the passing of my father-in-law, it reminded me that life really is too short and to take each day you spend with your family as a blessing. To make time for family, as we cannot get it back.
- Giving unconditionally. To give from the heart without any strings attached.
- To be more grateful for the things I do have.
- To smile. There is so much anger in the world…yet we forget just how much you can achieve with a simple smile. To me it’s the biggest offer of kindness you can give.
- Don’t sweat the small stuff otherwise life will pass me by. Choose what’s important to me.
Wishing you all a safe and Happy 2015!
To boosting your confidence and breaking barriers by challenging the status quo and getting what you want out of life.
How does one know when enough is enough and its time to move onto another dream, another idea? Based on my experiences in goal attainment thus far, I would say if the burning desire far outweighs any inkling to quit, you have to keep going. Dig deep and insulate yourself from all the negative opinions by believing in yourself. Fire up your grit and persistence, go for gold!
Another very important lesson I’ve learned along the way is to be patient and know when to strike.
“Patience is power. Patience is not an absence of action; rather it is “timing” it waits on the right time to act, for the right principles and in the right way.” ― Fulton J. Sheen
How many times has an opportunity presented itself. Right in your face, screaming to be taken, yet you did nothing. You walked away thinking……what the hell…why didn’t I just take a risk. The opportunity is gone and you think your chance is gone forever. Think again! No way. Opportunities are everywhere, all around us. Some present themselves and others, well we create ourselves of course. The question is how much would you be willing to pay for a slice of confidence? So that next time you are armed and ready. That confidence to put your hand up, to take a risk, to tell fear to bugger off, to have the courage to just go for it no matter what. To not hesitate, to just flippin go for it! Well the good news is you don’t have to pay a dime, you just need to dig deep into the courageous part of you and put yourself in the moment, experience it and let the emotions do the rest.
Turning a dream into reality. How does one get there? You have a passion for doing something great…yet you just cannot visualise the end product. So you park your dream and embrace the safety net of someone else’s dream……… This process is sooooo friggin frustrating! You motivate yourself and then some demotivates you…but ultimately YOU are in control of your destiny, right? At least I think so. In order to stop my negative thinking I turned to my motivational guru Tony Robbins and the following quote jumped right at me… “if you haven’t reached your dream…you’re just not that hungry for it”! I’d be lying if I said this quote didn’t make me angry, but he was right.
So today I take responsibility for not being hungry enough. Today I take charge in order to reinvigorate my hunger, my drive to do and be the best I can be. Because I can and I will!
The question is are you hungry enough?
Speaking from experience, our attitude is the driving force in everything we do yet we dedicate little to no effort to enhance it. Now I’m all for the power of positive thinking but when things turn pear shaped and life’s just not cutting us any slack, merely thinking positive thoughts is not going to bring about the confidence needed to reach our goals. So what the heck do you do? Challenge the status quo! If you find yourself continuously backing out of a goal due to lack of confidence, challenge the status quo. Challenge your own beliefs in order to dispel and prove (to yourself if no-one else) that it is possible. Remember you need to experience it in order to believe it. Developing a confident attitude is all about experimenting. Give yourself a chance, have a crack….step outside your comfort zone by challenging the status quo in your professional or personal environment and watch your confidence grow.
To boosting your confidence and getting what you want out of life!
Last week saw me fighting for yet another crack at a management role and the best excuse my boss could give me was that I didn’t know what I wanted! Really I said? Rather than just give me a down the line ‘no’ …not gonna happen, I copped a barrage of insults which no doubt made her feel better about herself. The justifications went on and on about where she saw my career (which was in her favour and way off my aspirations which I made very clear early on in the game). This was coming from someone who apparently was passionate about developing people……someone who inspired me with their speech of empowerment, trust and commitment to developing people.
I thought to myself here is someone in a leadership position with the ability to make a difference to my career yet her sole focus was on what’s best for her ONLY. No negotiation….zero compromise. Truly gut wrenching to be honest. And we wonder why we have such a demotivated workforce.
Anyway, the moral of my story being….that which doesn’t kill us…only makes us stronger so don’t sit back and listen for others to tell you what you want. Figure it out for yourself and stick to your guns. If you cannot get someone to give you what you want……make it clear what you don’t want. It will save you a lot of heartache down the track as you will quickly learn from their response whether you are being played or there is a glimmer of hope.